Loved the wedding, invite me to the marriage. –God
Weddings are big business. Every day in America nearly 6,200 couples tie the knot while spending $72 billion a year on these ceremonies. The average wedding budget runs $20,000, including more than $1,000 for the rings alone. Couples spend another $8 billion on honeymoons.
If you’re one of the thousands about to tie the knot—or have done so recently—consider this statistic. Each year, one-third of those getting married have been married before. A recent study found that the divorce rate has steadily increased the past 30 years, contrary to earlier reports that it peaked in the late 1970s.
As anyone who has been married for awhile can tell you, marriage is hard work. Differences quickly surface during the daily grind. You can’t expect two people from differing home environments, backgrounds, economic philosophies, and gender perspectives to automatically mesh. Differing desires and preferences complicate every decision: Where to live? Where to have dinner? What guests to invite to your home? How to raise your children?
This is why putting God at the center of your marriage is such a wise decision. He will give you wise counsel on many topics. For example:
- Ever hear the statement: “An affair can spice up your marriage”? God says, “Marriage should be honored by everyone, and husband and wife should keep their marriage pure” (Hebrews 13:4, NCV).
- Thinking about having children? God says those who follow Him will be blessed: “Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table” (Psalm 128:3, ESV).
- Instead of arguing over who’s in charge, remember God favors giving, self-sacrifice, compromise, and surrendering one’s “rights.” He says that love “always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails” (1 Corinthians 13:7-8).
However, seeing this kind of love means relying on a power greater than you or your partner possess. In marriage, you will face many frustrations, disappointments, and challenges to make it last on willpower alone. Marriage is more than light-hearted hilarity or romantic moments. When you invite God into your life as a couple, you will see the difference that decision can make.
A Challenge For You…
Read Ephesians 5:22-33. Then discuss these questions with your partner or a friend. According to this passage, how should a wife act towards her husband? How should a husband treat his wife? How does the instruction in these verses compare to your own understanding of marriage? If the Bible differs from what you have learned, how will you adjust?
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